A Dad on a not so lonely quest raising human beings fit enough to survive the cruel world. The world of the… Dad… (Queue music)…
I’m a Dad and hair-braider in training to a Daughter who is Four and Son who we still count in months. I maintain some anonymity for the safety of them but will share what I can.
I’m interested in music, fashion, interiors, property, football and creative writing, but above all, spending time with Georgia, our dogs and of course our children, Edie and Arlo.
I am not an overly interesting person, work in I.T. (not uber cool folks), my career comes second over the Children but believe very much in working hard (despite the procrastination). Thanks of the benefits of working from home and not climbing the ladder overly quickly I have had a lot of time for my children. Although as spending so much time at home with our Daughter strained our parenting I tend now to work from the office more despite the baby boy (He’s lucked out but has a calmer life).
We are Indian in heritage, proud Welsh people (Except I can’t speak Welsh and my Wife in English) and Hindu by faith. My own parents are my guides they have been through hell and back often living in despair, this has shaped my being and thought processes as a grown man and parent. It takes a community to raise a child, along with lots of gadgets and a loaded credit card. We have that thankfully.
As a Hindu I believe we have been gifted a soul to nurture, our decisions for them shapes their own decision making as adults. We do not own these souls or their future, we have no rights over them aside from guidance. In Hinduism non-attachment is a misunderstood principle but this is what I believe.
I volunteer in a community organisation founded by the first Gujarati’s to settle in Cardiff. I get overly involved as I like them see a benefit for the Children in our community, I place huge value on having a strong network around and a place you feel at home, it enriches what could be otherwise a lonely life. This does take up time requiring copious compromise and the support of my Partner, it means I do not have a lot of time for much else as I want to spend it all with the Children (From the moment our Daughter was born I keep reminding myself there are 52 weekends a year that you can’t redo).
This blog let’s me track progress and if you’re interested share them with you wonderful parents out there. My blog will not be either technically nor creatively gifted as the many out there. I try my best. I ramble and can be a dick by being preachy, please let me know as it’s a flaw my partner would like addressed. Thoughts are my own for sure!
Please help me be a better Dad and don’t be shy on commenting. There are some amazing Dad bloggers out there who inspire, my motivations are like them to share and hopefully hand over to the kids when grown up enough to understand my parenting logic.